What’s my story?…

“I sit here in front of my ipad screen, sipping on rose and listening to Marilyn Monroe’s “Lazy”. I love the smoothness of Marilyn’s voice. “What’s my story?” I whisper to myself. There’s soo much to tell. I always believed that I have become a swan after a childhood of being an ugly duckling.

Unfortunately ever since my early years, having friends was difficult for me. My peers inside and outside of school thought I was weird, too quiet, too ugly to be seen with, and they isolated me willingly. Being awkward did not help on top of all of this. I had no confidence.

The worst part is, after being treated unfairly and hearing people naming their perceptions of me so many times, I began to believe it. That I was strange, and awkward, and better off alone. But one day I decided that they were wrong. I promised myself to have self compassion and face the amazing qualities I possessed; how I was intelligent, analytical, good-hearted, chic and passionate.

I did a 360 in my how I perceived myself. I did not put up with other people’s insecurities and I FILLED MYSELF with confidence and self-love. And it was a genuine love. In many ways, fashion reformed me to be more bold, creative and confident.

Apart of my beginnings as a Swan, I learned two things about myself – I love to help others, and I love fashion. To me, they intertwine so obviously and so ambiguously at the same time. My aspirations of who I want to be and what I want to do have been manifesting for a few years now.

One part is through helping my community, which I currently do as a crisis line responder (with plans to become a psychotherapist). The second part is engaging in fashion as a creative outlet, blogging about my style and all the topics that interest me in the fashion world. Helping people and playing with fashion interact in my blog Malgosiastyle.

Through my writing  I help people utilize fashion and style as a means for self growth and a creative outlet (icon series, trends, style guides, etc). That is my main goal, to inspire and guide people with the message to “be effortlessly chic and effortlessly you.”

I truly believe that there is magical effects in dressing to present the best version of yourself. When I started dressing like a CEO, it transformed and challenged myself to actually be a boss in my life. And I welcome everyone to do the same. Through cultivating your style, you can feel better, have more confidence in yourself and in your abilities, and also learn more about who you are.

I also dive into other topics on MalgosiaStyle because I believe fashion comes with so much more beautiful experiences; comic relief, important stories about mental health, analyses of our behavior, historic movements and more.

 But it’s much more powerful to see it in your eyes, and you can find it here (malgosiastyle.wordpress.com). I invite you to continue your journey on living your best life, loving your self more by the day, and hope you become effortlessly chic and effortlessly you!

XOXO Malgosia” @malgosiastyle

White smile = Bright smile…

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I used to hate brushing my teeth before bed when I was younger. Yes, I know that’s gross but it was just the idea of having to get out of bed once I was super comfortable and tired from the days activities to do an extra step that I can easily do the following morning that was extremely annoying.

My mom would have to be the one to force me to get my ass up from my bed as dramatic as that sounds lol. But yeah, it was something I didn’t like doing. Now that I’m older, especially in recent years, I’ve noticed just how many things I wish I wouldn’t have been so stubborn to just do as a child in terms of taking care of my body.

I wish I would’ve listened to those that knew better and would give me advice on how to take care of myself, for example, with my dry skin. You want to know how to cure dry skin?… For the most part, it’s as easy as just hydrating your skin with body lotion every day. Guess how long it took me to figure that one out *rolls eyes.* Guess how long I suffered with my dry skin for being stubborn and lazy. *eye roll and smh*

The same goes for my smile. I never had bad teeth to begin with, but they weren’t always the whitest either. Honestly, I’m surprised they aren’t as bad with how neglecting I’ve been with them my entire youth. But now that I’m older and wiser (:D), I’ve become religious with taking care of myself in certain areas. I still have a lot to work on but I’m on the right path.

I always struggle with finding products that work for ME, but low and behold, Smile Brilliant found me instead. This company gave me the opportunity to try out their product which is custom fitted teeth whitening trays, so I was more than happy to oblige! And the results have been awesome! I’ve noticed a difference in my smile after a couple of weeks from using their whitening and desensitizing gel syringes.

I like to do the treatment right before I go to bed to make it as long lasting as possible. But not only has it helped me in the whitening process, but it’s also disciplined me to be consistent every night. It’s forced me to really take care of my teeth if I want the results to come out the way I want.

I’ve had my fair share of trips to the dentist so the fact that I was able to do the treatment at home without having to pay hundreds of $$ at the dentist’s office, it just makes it all the more worth it! Now, I know I won’t have pearly bright white teeth unless I do something extremely drastic because teeth naturally have a yellowish tint, but I have noticed a difference since I’ve used the product and that’s enough for me. Big shoutout and thank you to Smile Brilliant for brightening up my smile 🙂

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Explore opportunities…

1.  What got you into traveling?

“I have a curious character and I always want to explore opportunities and new places.”

2.  What’s been the most exotic place you’ve ever visited?

“I feel like Kenya would be that place because I usually adapt quickly anywhere I go but Kenya was a whole new world to me.”

3.  What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever eaten?

“Fried bugs from Cambodia”

4.  Do you have a place called home?

“I would have to say 1. Philippines and 2. Hawaii.”

5.  You must have been introduced to many cultures… which one  have you connected with the most?

“I connect mostly with Hawaiians and Chamorros because I do have a laid back character.  I have yet to find which is the best fit for me because I also like being proactive.  I think I have that balance between fast and chill.”

6.  Do you travel alone or prefer doing it by yourself?

“I’ve always liked good company for my travels but if I’m going to be really busy and have a lot of work, I prefer to travel by myself so I don’t have to drag the other person along.  Unless we’re business partners, of course!”

7.  How long do you see yourself traveling?

“Traveling will be a staple for me.  I actually travel less now and work on quality more than quantity.” @babetravelling

Rules that I live by…

“My story is very long but I love sharing it to inspire people! When I was in my early twenties, I went through rough time and grew up in a catholic school and my faith was never really something that concerned me. I became christian when I left my troubles and everything began to change for the better. I began to pray on my own and everything fell into place.

This year I opened up an online christian clothing store!! This is something I have always wanted to do and my line is based off of different quotes throughout the bible that have brought me to the place I am today! All these scriptures mean a lot to me and they have been rules that I live by. 

I noticed through my journey, becoming a christian was something that inspired me to be the best me and really express myself. I never really knew the difference growing up in a catholic church and the bible was always something I could never understand but I am glad I made the change and really worked on my relationship with God instead.

This was the best decision of my life and I hope everyone gets a chance to experience it! My online store also has tons of other things so feel free to check it out at shoplasshowroom.com” @lakenalexandra_ @shoplasshowroom

Our firsts…

One thing that I could never get enough of or tire of are the moments I fall in love with something for the first time. The first time I listen to a song, the first time I finish a book that captured my heart, the first time I eat a delicious meal, the first time I watch an amazing movie or the first time I experience something new.

We often grow tired of what we start repeating over and over again. I tend to do this a lot, for example, with a song. If I fall in love a song, I hit the replay button like a broken record. The funny thing is, I try and tell myself to calm it down because I know, as much as I’m vibin’ to it and jamming out, eventually I’ll have had run its course without having taken the time to relish what it made me feel.

Soon enough, it becomes a song that I listen to every once in a while or I end up hitting “next.” I exhaust my newly found love before I even had the chance to take it in. If I could choose one special ability that I could possess, it would be to experience certain things over and over again, as if it were the first time.

A lot of people might agree because those feelings are what most of us wish we could hold on to or even remember. The “first times,” the “first feelings” are always the special kinds of beginnings that make it to the forefront of our memory bank. They become the moments we want to revisit and relive the same way they happened.

Can you imagine reading your favorite book multiple times as if it were the first time you picked it up? You would fall in love with the characters and the story-line as if you were being introduced to them at the very beginning of it all. To have your mind re-read the words with just as much excitement as you did the last time knowing you could never grow tired of them.

Your inspirations would never fall short nor be forgotten. You wouldn’t have to feel regret of not having cherished those moments originally because you would feel it every single time.

But I think because that’s not the reality with how our memories and our minds work, we must make it a priority to think of our “firsts,” no matter how big or small or what they may be, as if they’re our last.

Make yourself happy…

“Hi, I’m Mikayla👋🏻 My happiness has always come from being around a large group of people and being able to help/encourage others! I’m much of an extrovert and sometimes that can be a bad thing. About 6 months ago after moving back to KY from FL, I couldn’t find my purpose.

I wanted something more. I had been used to living with 5 other girls and I didn’t want to be alone. Ever. I tried everything you could ever image, but nothing worked. A part of me just felt empty. I knew I loved social media and it was the only outlet I had to feel like I wasn’t alone.

I began to search the different ways I could connect to people on social media. I soon realized that “blogging” or being an “influencer” was big on the market and everyone was doing it. I made another Instagram to start from square one and boy what a decision that was.

Since I started my blog page, I have been able to connect with people from all around the world. Now, I always have something I could be doing and I truly never feel alone. That void was quickly filled by strangers that I am able to influence and encourage daily!

I have finally realized that I don’t need a large group of people to make me happy. I can make myself happy by influencing others. So, go out and do what’s best for you! Don’t depend on anything or anyone else for your happiness! Go out and make yourself happy💛
kayla” @kkaylaraee

Your will to live will prevail…

Growing up is tough, right? I means, as a child, our only expectation of evil came from the fairy-tales we were told and read about. Evil villains, evil times, evil thoughts. Our innocence is what’s kept us out of harms way. Our ignorance the blinds shielding us from what was true, having us settle only on what we believed to be true.

Through the years, I think it’s safe to say that on many occasions, ignorance is bliss, huh? No, it’s not always ideal nor favored to remain in the dark. But sometimes the light catches something you wish to unsee. As a teenager and as an adult, you’ve probably had some or many moments where you would’ve wanted those words to have fallen on deaf ears, or been blind to not witness those photographs.

I wish I could say it’s only once you reach a certain age, that you’re hit with a dose of reality, but even as a child, many are faced with the realization that the world is, in fact, not perfect. Some have had to fight off evil villains. Others have endured evil times. A greater portion has had to combat evil thoughts. And the majority have had to overcome all 3.

My biggest evil has been my thoughts. And with more and more people coming forward, opening up about their depression and mental illness, it’s an evil that is no longer a myth. It does not get more real than a person who chooses death above anything else.

I’ve conquered my depression, just as many others have. But I will not deny the moments my evil tries to return because another piece of my ignorance was brought into the light or my innocence chipped away. Most often, it’s as simple as questioning myself constantly on just about everything. The fear to live. And fear, with all the thoughts that follow, has always been my shortcoming.

But it’s one I don’t plan on giving into. I’m no longer a child. I’ve been introduced, hit after hit, to reality. Just like all of you. But I have introduced my strength, my resilience, and my faith. And as I continue to grow, so will these key components of my character.

Sometimes you’ll wish to go back in time to simpler days where your innocence is all you needed and your ignorance is all you wanted. But that’s just not how our stories go. You may be fighting your evil today. You may have to fight your evil tomorrow, but rest assured, if you have that fire burning within you, than your will to live will prevail.